BISEXUALITY
Many people who are in relationships with the opposite gender also experience sexual feelings for people of their own sex.. They may describe themselves as straight, gay, bisexual, bi-curious - or just plain confused!
If you’re in this position it’s up to you whether or not you do anything about exploring your feelings for people of your own gender. You may decide to do nothing about these feelings. You may want to talk over your thoughts and feelings with a sympathetic listener on a gay helpline like Project Oscar, or see a counsellor. You may decide to act on your feelings, and in doing so you will need to think about whether or not to tell your opposite-sex partner.
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| Many people don’t tell their partner, but sometimes they then develop feelings of guilt about keeping this secret. What you decide to do is up to you. But if you go ahead, do make sure you know about the sexual health issues, and keep yourself protected, as it’s easy to get carried away with the intensity of exploring a new sexual dimension. If you are planning to tell your opposite-sex partner, do think carefully about the consequences, on yourself, your partner and on any children; and make sure you have a place to stay if the worst comes to the worst and you get thrown out. |
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Support:
If you are a man who would like to talk to other men in this situation, for support and understanding, here are some possibilities: |
Manchester Married Men’s Group
A longstanding group for men who are or have been in a relationship with a woman and who also have sexual feelings for other men. Meets every Tuesday evening 7.30 – 9.00pm at the Lesbian & gay Foundation.
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Tel: 07743 696657.
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GayDads-UK
A great site offering support, comfort and understanding to all gay fathers in the UK, whether divorced, separated, still married or closeted. |
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Suffolk MESMAC
This project for men who have sex with men has a good section about the complexities of dealing with same-sex attraction when you’re in a relationship with a woman, and includes some ideas for actually meeting other men.
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BiPhoria
A Manchester-based social and support group for bisexual people and those who think they may be bi. Meets 1st Tuesday of the month at the Lesbian & Gay Foundation for discussion and support, followed by socialising in Taurus bar on Canal St.
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